Ashamed of Pride: Why Traditional Gays and Lesbians Want Nothing To Do With "The Community"

A movement built around individual dignity and mutual respect has become nothing more than a hedonistic celebration of debauchery that most want nothing to do with

There was a time when Pride parades stood for something meaningful—something dignified. When they marched, they weren’t demanding special treatment or consideration. They weren’t waving kink flags in front of toddlers or shouting down parents who dared to question the curriculum. They were saying: We are here, we are stable, we are your neighbors, your doctors, your teachers, your police officers, your firefighters, your soldiers. We were normal, and we were proud of that. The goal was integration and assimilation, not exhibitionism.

But that vision, the one rooted in reality and mutual respect, has been completely overtaken. The Pride flag that once symbolized simple acceptance now flutters above displays of nudity, fetish gear, and trans propaganda. The original Gay Rights Movement, built by everyday men and women, has been hijacked by a new ideology—one that is both deeply political and utterly detached from reality.

This isn’t what we fought for.

The modern Pride movement no longer represents the struggles gay men and women lived through. What began as a fight for the right to live with dignity has been twisted into a demand to broadcast debauchery and sexualize children. The letters “LGB”—once a simple, clear shorthand for those of us who shared same-sex attraction—have been buried beneath an ever-growing alphabet of identities, all of which reject human biology, resent parental rights, and promote ideological absurdities. Today’s Pride isn’t about being Gay or Lesbian; it’s about being loud, transgressive, and lascivious.

Traditional Gays and Lesbians have watched as drag performers gyrate in front of children at Pride events under the guise of inclusion. We’ve watched corporations plaster their logos in rainbow glitter every June while pushing radical gender ideology onto the general public. We’ve watched teachers transition mid-semester, instructing kids to keep secrets from their parents, and giving them new names behind parents backs. We’ve watched as activists spoke for “the LGBT community” while pushing policies most Gay and Lesbian Americans adamantly oppose.

What’s going on in the “community” isn’t liberation— its ideological imperialism. Young boys who might grow up to be happy, well-adjusted Gay men are now being told they must be girls if they have an affinity for the feminine. Tomboy girls are funneled toward double mastectomies and boys names before they’re old enough to develop breasts. This is not progress. This is child mutilation cloaked in a white, pink, and blue flag.

Many of us came out of the closet to be ourselves—not to be redefined by a movement that has come to see biological truth as bigotry and traditional Gays and Lesbians as oppressive. We didn’t spend decades pushing for acceptance just to be used as human shields for a sexual and political agenda we never agreed to. We’re not the ones who changed.

And so, this June, don’t be surprised to see fewer of us showing up at the parades. Don’t be surprised if Gay men and Lesbian women quietly slip away from the celebrations that now seem more like carnivals of confusion than statements of dignity. We aren’t hateful—we’re heartbroken. Because something that once stood for equality, privacy, and maturity has been turned into a ridiculous sideshow.

Across the country, Gays and Lesbians are reconnecting with one another outside the “community” structure that activists have built. We’re forming new coalitions—ones rooted in shared reality, not shared delusion. We still believe in fairness. We still believe in freedom. But we no longer believe that Pride or the “community” represent us.

To those who feel the same but have stayed silent, know this: you’re not alone. You’re not crazy. And you’re not “transphobic” for noticing what’s going on. If you’re Gay, Lesbian, or Bisexual and tired of the madness, it’s okay to walk away. It doesn’t mean you’re betraying who you are. It means you’re protecting it. Let Pride go. It’s not ours anymore, and we don’t need it.