The Big Gay Divorce: Gays and Lesbians Are Separating Themselves From The TQ+

The Rumor of Divorce Between The LGB Community and The Ever Growing TQIA2S+ Seems To Be Taking Shape With A Growing Number Raising Their Voices In Support

Gays and Lesbians fought for decades to carve out a small space in society where we could live, free from the shadow of shame or the wrath of the ignorant. We built a fragile sanctuary with hushed alliances, in smoky bars, casting coded glances, and winning battles against laws that branded us criminals. But now, the bond is breaking. The newest members of the family, the TQIA+, initially presumed an ally under a similar banner, has become an unwelcome houseguest, who’s rewritten the rules, redrawn our flag, and claimed our home for themselves. The closet is gone, but this new arrangement feels a lot like a different sort of cage.

The coup didn’t happen overnight. Gays have learned throughout history to anticipate external threats: preachers with a message, politicians with an agenda, or strangers with a grudge. But today our biggest threat isn’t an external one. It’s the suburban house-wife at Drag Brunch who calls you a traitor for questioning Trans orthodoxy. It’s the unattractive, rotund activist who demands you repeat after them or shut the hell up. It’s not fire-and-brimstone pastors or pitchfork-wielding Republicans battering down the door. This time the call is coming from inside the house.

Trans activists, by far the loudest, most militant faction of the Rainbow Mafia, have crowned themselves the Gatekeepers of Gayness, despite many of them being heterosexual. Dissent by Gays, Lesbians, and Bisexuals is forbidden. Suggesting Biology is a valid science, or that Lesbians deserve boundaries is met with screams of “Self-loathing!” “Sellout!” “Pick-me!” “Internalized homophobia!”— and the best of all, “Are you even gay?” These people aren’t protecting the community; they’re instituting a dogmatic cult whose members are on par with the most die-hard. Defy them, and the sentence is social death.

LESBIANS WERE THE FIRST CASUALTIES

Lesbians, as usual, have suffered the majority of the collateral damage. Not only are their community spaces vanishing, but they are under relentless pressure to sleep with men pretending to be women. If and when they say no, they’re labeled bigots. If they try to establish Lesbian-only spaces, they’re expected to embrace “trans women” or be accused of transphobia. The word “Lesbian” itself is currently on hormone-replacement therapy, reduced to an aesthetic instead of a sexual orientation grounded in physical reality.

Look no further than what’s happened to lesbian bars across America. They’ve been quietly disappearing. Why? Because activists have insisted these spaces must accept anyone who identifies as a woman. Straight men in dresses hassling lesbians isn’t liberation — it’s sexual harassment in a thrifted dress. When lesbians do speak up for themselves, they’re hounded. They’re called TERFs (Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist, yes, that’s a thing). They’re threatened with violence. Their reputations are smeared, and their places of business are defamed. This isn’t progress. This is Fascism à la Transvestite.

IT’S AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

Nuance and honest conversation are heretical in the Era of Transgenderism. You either accept, wholesale, every new and arbitrary demand of the Gender Enforcers, or face condemnation. A bigot. A self-loathing pick-me. A Gay man not interested in a man with a vagina is lambasted as a disgusting transphobe. A Lesbian who isn’t interested in a penis tucked under a sundress is shamed as a filthy TERF. Any independent thought, moment of skepticism, or expression of discomfort is met with hostility. And that hostility was, unfortunately, successful for some time. Traditional Gays and Lesbians have been silenced. They’ve been stepping back in a big way, made apparent in the massive reduction in Pride across America this June. They're retreating from their own community, exhausted and embarrassed.

What’s happening now is little short of an inquisition — not by Catholics or Trump supporters, but by our own alleged community members. Generations of Gays and Lesbians who achieved Gay Marriage in 2015 are now being told to embrace the ever-evolving orthodoxy or get back in the closet. Many are complying, afraid of a public pile-on, social media mob, or the loss of friendships. Others are realizing, however, that these people don’t have any real power, and no friendship is worth embracing delusion.

THEY’RE NOT LIKE US

For decades, transsexuals made a clear and deliberate distinction between themselves and the Gay/Lesbian population. And rightly so. Being trans is about the struggle with body dysmorphia — not about who they’re attracted to. This has been asserted repeatedly by experts in the field, such as Vivienne Cass and Jamison Green (a Trans Scholar), and evidenced by the parade of “trans women” who maintain an attraction exclusively to females. They call themselves “Trans Lesbians”, which always reminds me of my Baby Boomer father joking that every straight man is a Lesbian on the inside.

Gender identity and sexual orientation are completely separate concepts. Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual are sexual orientations, defined specifically by same-sex attraction, not how they feel about their bodies. Body dysmorphia is a real struggle, but it has nothing to do with what someone likes in the bedroom. The forced fusion of these distinct categories was a mistake, and why we’re in this mess today.

THE MARSHA P. JOHNSON MYTH

One of the most persistent myths in the LGBT community has been endlessly repeated in a well-meant effort of unity. The legend claims that Marsha P. Johnson (born Malcolm Michaels Jr.), a black Drag Queen, threw the first brick in the Stonewall Riots. It’s a dramatic and inspiring narrative — and convenient for those whose focus is identity politics above all things. But Marsha denied that version of events himself, where he openly stated that he arrived at the Stonewall Inn around 2 o’clock in the morning, well after the first raid and confrontation at the Stonewall Inn. In fact, the person most Gays and Lesbians believe should truly be credited for sparking the Stonewall Riots is a biracial Lesbian named Stormé DeLarverie. During the initial police raid that night, Stormé called out to the crowd as she was hauled away by police, “Aren’t you guys gonna do something?!” This call for aid is what many who were there that night say preceded the first brick flying, hours before Marsha P. Johnson arrived. While Johnson was undeniably a passionate and influential activist in the years that followed, the idea that he launched the gay rights movement, or that Gays and Lesbians somehow owe him their rights as some sort of Patron Saint is simply false. It’s a modern myth crafted from ideological misinformation rather than historical fact.

THEY BROKE THE ONE RULE

Perhaps the most dangerous aspect of Transgenderism and its new wave of activist allies is their obsessive focus on children. The aggressive push to introduce complex gender ideology into elementary classrooms, prescribe puberty blockers to preteens, and celebrate adolescent transitions has ignited a cultural backlash the likes of which we haven’t seen since the early 2000s. And make no mistake — it’s not just trans activism paying the price. Gays, Lesbians, and Bisexuals are being dragged back into the fire with them. To the average person, the lines between “LGBT” and radical gender politics are blurred beyond recognition, and the public trust we spent decades earning — to be seen as safe, stable, and family-friendly — is evaporating. In a matter of years, we’ve gone from “love is love” to “we’re coming for your children” and the result has been a devastating setback for the acceptance of LGB people.

WE’RE FILING FOR DIVORCE

If you are Gay, Lesbian, or Bisexual, and you feel like your identity is being erased or reshaped to fit someone else’s agenda — know that you’re not alone. There are millions of LGB Folks around the world embracing reality, the importance of boundaries, and our responsibility to resist this quasi-religious ideology manifesting in our community. There is a growing movement to reclaim our community from those who give us the choices of being reformed, muted, or erased. Let them call us what they like; their ridicule means nothing, because we’ve seen what they celebrate.

The greatest threat to any minority group in America is allowing others to speak for them. The call for the LGB community to separate from transgender ideology and reclaim our identity grows stronger every day. Gays, lesbians, and bisexuals are rediscovering our voices, rebuilding our spaces, and defending the freedoms we fought so long and hard for. It’s time to end this clearly abusive relationship with Transgenderism.

This is the fourth installment in our series titled “Ashamed of Pride”. The previous installments are available below:

Part One: Ashamed of Pride

Part Two: 50 Shades of Gay

Part Three: Requiem of A Rainbow